Dear Manay Gina,
I have been happily married for 31 years. Last year I went to my high-school reunion and ran into an old flame. We started talking and, to make a long story short, began an affair. He’s married too. I really love him, and I always have, but situations and youth kept us from being together. Now our marital status keeps us apart. If my husband found out about this, he would be devastated. I also love him. What I want is to be with both of them. What’s wrong with me?
You have the seven-year-itch 24 years late. The long story you made short is also an old story. Reunion sparks frequently fly but it’s one-part fantasy, one-part recaptured young love, and one-part fatigue from a long marriage.
It seemed revealing that you said you loved both men and that your husband would be devastated if he found out.
So, I suggest you bow out of the affair now, tuck away the memories, and keep them secret.
And should you choose not to do that, be prepared to tangle four lives and take your chances of it working out well or badly. What will make you a definite loser – from guilt, if nothing else – would be to try to juggle both relationships.
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“Mistakes are a part of being human. Appreciate your mistakes for what they are: precious life lessons that can only be learned the hard way. “ – Al Franken
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