Dear Manay Gina,
I am married to a responsible husband. However, he lost his job. It’s a good thing that I’m employed. If not, our family will really suffer. However, I am worried about his changing attitude. He is becoming more and more angry over his situation, as the one who takes care of the household chores. I am trying very hard to stay optimistic but it’s really becoming difficult. What should I do?
You said that your husband was always responsible. This was probably a main source of his self esteem. For a man, once that is taken, he may not feel like he is making any contributions.
Try hard not to get caught up in his anger. And even if it’s difficult, you need to remain neutral when he gets frustrated. If that’s too hard for you, try humor. It helps relieve tension. You need to try these because you are the source of his emotional strength. Don’t forget that you are a team, and that you are in this together.
Yes, the game plan has changed, but, you still share the ultimate goal of keeping your family functioning. So keep the communication lines open and find time to get together so that you can reconnect as a couple. Always remind him that this is only temporary, and God willing, things will be better again.
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“Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one”. – Hans Selye
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