Dear Manay Gina,
Hi! I’m a 34- year- old mom. I used to be a battered wife of a man who was a drug-dependent. We’ve been separated for three years already.
Now, I have a suitor who knows nothing about what I have gone through. I didn’t tell him that I’m still married, legally. I’m afraid that I may lose him, when he finds out the truth about my past. He’s a seaman, and he’s coming home, two weeks from now. I’m afraid I love him too. I’m just not sure if he’ll love me still when he learns the truth. What is the best thing to do?
One cannot hide the truth forever. If you don’t tell your suitor the truth, it will surface some day and you may have to face terrible repercussions. The best thing to do is to tell him everything you have told me. It will probably hurt him or make him angry.
But if he loves you, he will appreciate your honesty. Do this as soon as possible. At the same time, ask a lawyer to help you with a legal annulment. I wish you all the best.
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“Be true to your own act and congratulate yourself.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
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