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Husband thinks she’s unattractive

Dear Manay Gina,
Please don’t laugh, but my problem concerns the length of my hair. I’m in my mid-40s. I’ve been mostly happily married for 20 years. Between working at home, caring for a family with two teenage sons, one of whom has learning disability that require extra attention, and looking after aging parents, life is quite busy.

I try to be well-groomed. A well-cut hair and a dab of lipstick are about the extent of my beauty regimen. In recent years I’ve worn my hair cut above the shoulder and occasionally, even shorter. The problem is, every once in awhile, my husband announces that he thinks I don’t look attractive with short hair and that he wishes I wore my hair longer.

Just recently, he informed me that 95 percent of women wear their hair long, so why couldn’t I do the same? His attitude really hurts my feelings. Who wants to hear that her husband doesn’t think she’s attractive?!


Dear Bel,
Tell your husband – the statistician, that his 95 percent business is hokum, but even if those numbers were correct, they would have very little to do with your life of work, housework and aging parents. It would be nice if you could please him in the long hair department, but it doesn’t sound like it works with your life. Perhaps a little humor might help. Get an inexpensive wig, and wear it in the bedroom. That ought to cheer him up.

Seriously, find time to consult with your favorite hairstylist on how you could improve your hairstyle. The main consideration is its adaptableness to your lifestyle. It should also compliment your personality. Most of all, it should be a style that makes you feel pretty.


Manay Gina

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