Dear Manay Gina,
I fell in and out of love several times before. I’m now in my mid 30s with a brand-new relationship. I am hoping that he will be my husband because he possesses most of the qualities that I look for in a man. However, I do feel afraid of what will happen, should this relationship fail again. I know the pain of being abandoned and honestly, I don’t want to experience another heartache again. How do I overcome this fear of being abandoned?
Oh Belle, life happens, for better or for worse. So, just enjoy your relationship and throw caution to the wind.
After all, this relationship is all you really have, right there, right now. Everything else – the people you know in the past, your hope and fears for the future, all that stuff – only exists in your mind because you are not with those people, or in the past or future.
Stop thinking in terms of “abandonment”, because it implies that you are more powerless than you really are. The truth is, you will not be as helpless as you felt way back then because you have been strengthened by your past experiences and you can use all the lessons learned the next time you face defeat.
Besides, nothing really lasts forever. So enjoy where you’re at and whom you’re with. And while you’re at it, aim to be your best self, every day!
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“A sign of wisdom and maturity is when you come to terms with the realization that your decisions cause your rewards and consequences. You are responsi
ble for your life, and your ultimate success depends on the choices you make.” – Denis Waitley
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