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Tanungin mo kung marami na siyang karanasan

By Rica Cruz

Hi Ms. Rica,
Is there a way to know po kung ilan na ang naging sexual partners ng babae? Are there tests for this? Gusto ko po kasing malaman kung ilan na ang partner ko.

Thank you,

Self Lover

Hello Need to Know,
Are there tests to know how many sexual partners meron ang isang babae? No, there are no tests for this.

But, is there a way to know kung ilan na ang nagiging sexual partners ng isang babae? Mayroon. Ano? Tanungin mo siya.

But it would only be fair for her if you also share this information about yourself, and you trust whatever it is that she would tell you.

Maybe the best question to ask yourself now is – why do you want to know? Bakit gusto mong malaman kung ilan na ang nagiging sexual partners ng partner mo?

If you’re asking because of concerns about sexually transmitted infections, then it may be helpful for you to know different ways to protect yourself, regardless of the number of sexual partners a female already has.

The most common form of protection against STIs is the male condom.

If you’re asking because of a trust issue, then, baka mas mabuting pagusapan niyo maigi ang pinaggagalingan ng hindi mo pagtitiwala sa kaniya.

Trust is an integral part of any relationship, and if you feel that you can’t trust your partner, then maybe her number of sexual partners is not really the issue to look into.

Kung gusto mong malaman dahil na-iinsecure ka na pwedeng mas marami siyang naging sexual partner kaysa sayo, then the concern is not with her but with you.

It may be helpful for you to know that sexual performance is not based on sexual experience but how well you know each other in and out of the bedroom.

Lastly, if you want to know because you don’t want to be with anyone who’s already sexually experienced, and you know that she already is, then maybe it’s about time for you to accept her history, or realize that you shouldn’t be with her.

Whatever it is na pinanggagalingan ng tanong mo and if you have concerns about your partner’s sexual history, it is best na pagusapan ninyo ito. #takeitfromthesexymind.

With love and lust,


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Biography: Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Marriage Counselor, and, Sex and Relationships Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psychologist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.