By RICA CRUZ
Dear Ms. Cruz,
Me and my girlfriend recently had a conversation about past experiences and best or most intense orgasms that we have had. Pareho naman kaming hindi insecure so we both feel safe talking about these things. Pero naisip din namin na if we comÂpare, baka naman parang apples and oranges dahil magkaiba naÂman yata ang orgasm ng babae at lalaki so hindi sila pwedeng gamitin for comparison. Ano nga po ba ang mga pagkakaiba?
Makapili
Hi sa’yo, Makapili!
Medyo mahirap na conversation ‘yang ginagawa ninyo lalo na kapag napunta sa sino ang nakaexperiÂence ng mas masarap na orgasm. Pero kung parehas naman kayong naniniwala that this does not affect your relationship then good for the both of you. It is very mature that you are able to talk about each other’s sexual experiences and satisfaction.
Palaki na nang palaki ang consenÂsus na walang major biological difÂferences sa mga orgasms ng babae at lalaki. An orgasm, for majority of people consists of a contraction ng pelvic floor muscles, release ng edorphins at mga hormones at mga fluids pero ito ay nagiiba-iba. During climax, may pag-iiba din ng breathing, init ng katawan, pangÂinginig na parang kilig, o minsan ay pag-moan. Hindi ito dahil sa gender o kasarian.
While there are no biological difÂferences sa orgasmic sensations, merong anatomical differences na nagkakaroon ng impact sa abilidad ng isang taong mag-orgasm nang mas madalas. Ang mga babae na mas malayo ang pagitan ng clitoris at ang opening ng urethra ay maaaring mas less likely to achieve orgasms through penile penetration. Meron ding mga lalaki na nakaka-achieve ng multiple orÂgasms na usually thought to occur only sa kababaihan.
Naaapektohan ang ating perÂception about gender-based orÂgasms dahil sa culture or gender expectations. Ang sexual identity din ay nakakaapekto kagaya ng mga lesbian women ay sinasaÂbing mas nakaka-experience ng mas mataas na pleasure than straight women. Dahil daw ito sa mas naiintindihan ng both females ang mas nakaka-please sa isang babae pero walang ganitong difference between men despite their varying sexual identities.
At the end of the day, kailanÂgan nating maintindihan na ang orgasms ay very subjective at inÂdividual experiences. Walang easy comparison between orgasms and wala din namang formula or sure na strategy. Mukhang mas okay na mag-explore kayo and see what works. Enjoy exploring and always be safe!
With love and lust,
Rica
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If you have questions on love and sex that you want me to answer, you may message me at www.faceÂbook.com/TheSexyMind or DM me at IG and Twitter @_ricacruz.
Biography: Rica Cruz is a LiÂcensed Psychologist, Marriage Counselor, and, Sex and RelationÂships Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psychologist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.