Hi Ms Rica,
Tatanong ko lang po kung may mali po ba sa akin kung hindi po ako natatapos kapag intercourse po? NagcuÂcum lang po ako kapag hinahawakan ang clit, pero hindi po kapag inÂtercourse na. May mga puwede po ba gawin para magcum during sexual intercourse?
                                                                       Penetrate Me
Hello Penetrate Me,
Thanks for writing! First of all, normal at common lang para sa ating mga babae na hindi mag-orÂgasm through sexual inÂtercourse or penetration. Sa totoo lang, 25 percent lang ng mga babae ang nag-o-orgasm during inÂtercourse, kaya hindi ka nag-iisa at lalong-lalong walang mali sa iyo.
Mahalaga ang role ng clitoris para makapag-orÂgasm ang mga babae. Ito ay may madaming nerve endings na nakakapagÂstimulate to orgasm, haÂbang ang vagina ay wala gaanong nerve endings to make you feel good.
Kaya kung gusto mo mag-cum during penetraÂtion, kailangan ay may diÂrect stimulation o pressure sa iyong clitoral area.
How can you do that?
- You or your partner can rub or touch your clitoris before, during, or after intercourse. You can guide your partner by placing his fingers on top of your clitoris or vulva kung saan masarap para sa ‘yo.
- Have fun with foreÂplay. You may want your partner to first touch, rub, kiss, or lick your vulva and clitoris, with his hands, mouth, or penis. Most women respond well to and experience intense orgasms through oral sex dahil sa direct focus nito on the clitoris!
- Use lubricant. Direct dry stimulation may hurt your clitoris. Kaya imÂportante ang lubrication. Puwedeng gamitin ang laway (for free!) or you can also buy water-based lubricants sa iyong suking tindahan!
- Try other sex posiÂtions. Madaming babae ang nagsasabing mas nakakapag-orgasm sila kapag sila ang nasa ibaÂbaw.
When you’re on top, you have more control over the stimulation, the rhythm, and the pacing of the hump while his pubic bone stimulates your clitoÂris. Puwede rin kayo mag-doggy and enter you from behind while you or your partner rubs and caresses your clitoris.
Be creative! Ang imporÂtante ay may stimulation ang iyong clitoris para ma-achieve mo ang iyong orgasm!
Also, kung hindi kaya through penetration, that’s totally normal, kaya huwag kang masyadong ma-stress. There are a lot of other ways that you can reach that big-O! Have fun!
Love and lust,
Rica
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Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Sex TheraÂpist and Sex Educator. Follow her at facebook.com/TheSexyMind and @_ricacruz in Twitter and IG and subscribe to her YouTube channel, Count To Ten.