Hello Ms Rica,
As a young couple, me and my husband are trying to have a baby for the past year. Pero sadly, I recently had a miscarriage. Ang tanong ko lang is how long do we have to wait until we can have sex again. May mga repercussions ba if we have sex too early? Thank you
Broken Telephone
Hello Broken Telephone,
Thank you for sharing your situation and I know it is difficult to move on after a miscarriage.
It takes a toll both on the physical and emotional aspect of your wellbeing. That being said, itong dalawang factors din na ito ang makakapag determine kung kelan ka ready to have sex after a miscarriage.
I am assuming that due to this miscarriage, you would have to see your healthcare provider or physician. He or she may be the best person to ask if there is anything that may hinder you from physically having sex again.
Typically speaking, ‘yung paghihintay or pagiging physically ready to have sex again is also proportional to gaano katagal during the pregnancy until you had a miscarriage. Mas susceptible to infection ang isang babae dahil ang uterus at cervix ay dilated kaya mas madaling pumasok ang bacteria kung may any penetration to your vagina.
The longer the time that you were pregnant, the longer din that you have to wait until you are given the go signal to have sex again. Emotionally or psychologically speaking, some women or couples for that matter also experience a certain level of trauma ng miscarriage. Kaya yung iba would prefer to abstain muna from sex fearing that it will lead to another failed pregnancy.
Kailangan i-acknowledge ang feelings na ito at kailangan din ninyong pag usapan ng iyong partner kung meron bang fears or inhibitions moving forward.
As long as you and your partner are comfortable with having sex again and trying to have a baby again, then everything should be okay.
Goodluck, enjoy and always be safe!
With love and lust,
Rica
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Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Sex and Relationships Therapist, Sex Educator. She opines that sexual empowerment for Filipinos is sexier than sex.
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