BY RICA CRUZ
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Doc Rica,
I am in a new relationship. Okay naman kami ng girlfriend ko. Ilang months na din kami and of course we do sexual stuff na din. Wala naman akong problema in getting it up, with handjobs or when she performs oral sex on me. Pero hindi pa kami nakakapag-sex dahil kapag nagco-condom ako, nawawala ang erection ko. Ano kaya ang problem?
Thank you,
Muffin
Hello Muffin,
Mukha namang meron kayong sexual chemistry ng iyong girlfriend sa pagkakadescribe mo. Kung okay naman kayo with the oral sex or hand jobs, mukhang hindi stress or lack of attraction ang problema mo.
Kailangan mong isipin that 52 percent of men ay nawawalan ng erection before or habang nagsusuot ng condom. Minsan nga, nawawala ang erection even a er ipasok ito sa vagina.
Merong iba’t ibang things to consider:
- Maintaining stimulation – Halimbawa, from oral sex and you decide to put on a condom to move to intercourse, puwedeng nagrereact ka sa sudden change in sensations. Kailangan nyong ibridge ito by continuous stimulation as you put on the condom.
- Thick condoms – There are a variety of condoms out there an db aka pu we de kan gm ag invest in getting thin ones. Usually branded condoms will have this. They may be a bit expensive than normal pero puwede itong makatulong in maintaining stimulation.
- Getting used to condoms – Try engaging in oral sex with the condom on. Makakatulong ito in helping you get used to the feeling of wearing a condom while having sexual activities.
Erection loss can also be correlated to many psychological conditions. You may schedule a session with a therapist regarding this. Do not pressure yourself with intercourse, relax lang and ease your way into having sex with your girlfriend. Explore, enjoy but always be safe in more ways than one.
With love and lust,
Doc Rica
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Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Sex and Relationships Therapist, Sex Educator. She opines that sexual empowerment for Filipinos is sexier than sex.
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