Dear Manay Gina,
I have some concerns about my boyfriend. I met him through an acquaintance. After several phone calls, our conversations turned into flirtations. After several dates, we got together for a romantic date. And ever since – he’s been “a little bit” emotionally distant.
He still calls and texts every day – little things like “how was your day?” or “I’m really tired” – but the spark is long gone. Now, I am wondering why the relationship can’t be better, easier, more fun and more supportive. What do I do to rekindle our relationship?
Violy
Dear Violy,
Regarding your man, I say “Dump Him.” He’s not your boyfriend, he is your phone pal. Don’t mistake phone calls for dates. In addition, he’s also making no effort to see you, commit to you, or grow your relationship.
From what you have said your guy just doesn’t seem too keen in escalating the relationship. That should tell you something. Only you know what is really going on with your guy but I think you would be better moving on and finding a guy who wants a relationship and a life with you. Men who are into you want to spend time with you.
Find the courage to end the relationship and find a man whose love language is also quality time, so that you and him are compatible in a way that ensures your happiness. It’s a terrible feeling to be the chum bag.You deserve better.
Affectionately,
Manay Gina
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“Commitment is an act, not a word”. – Jean-Paul Sartre
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