By: Rica Cruz
Hi Ms. Rica:
I’m a reader of your column and I want to ask: What are the different ways to pleasure myself? I often read sexy stories to be aroused, pero most of the time, I don’t get to finish the deed. Any tips you have for a lonely mom like me?
Thank you,
M
Hi M:
Thank you for being honest and open about self-pleasure!
We, as women, need to be more open about taking charge of our own pleasure. Huwag natin itong iasa sa iba. Kailangan, alam natin kung paano natin papasiyahin ang ating mga sarili – especially when it comes to sexy time!
Now to answer your question – you need to be aware that there are three major erogenous zones to help you have fun and get that Big O: The mind, the genitals, and the rest of your sexy body.
The mind is your greatest erogenous zone. Being able to put yourself in an aroused state by thinking and fantasizing makes all the difference in terms of getting it off on your solo journey.
If reading erotica is your thing, try reading a variety of stories so you can fantasize about new scenarios that could excite you even more. Kung gusto mo ng level up, look for stories with pictures or maybe even watch porn.
Whatever works for your mind to stay aroused and feel sexy, go for it!
Next, we have the genitals. Physical stimulation of our friend down there can happen in so many ways. It’s actually more about discovering what gets you hot and wanting for more.
Which spots should you focus on? Play with your clitoris. Look for that ever-popular “G-spot.” Put more attention to your labia. You may stimulate these zones however you want to: With your fingers, a vibrator, a dildo, or any other object that you can find!
Promise. A lot of women I know swear by using the showerhead or the bidet. Other women naman, they say that they use their hand-held massagers.
Kahit anong gusto mong gamitin, as long as malinis at hindi ka masasaktan (in a way that you don’t want), then use that!
You may also want to try using lube while you’re at it. Trust me, it’s easier to play when it’s wet down there.
Then we go to the rest of the body. If playing with your zones down there isn’t enough, you can look for other sweet spots on your body.
Some women like playing with their breasts and nips while getting busy down there. You may also lightly stroke your thighs, neck, stomach, even your kili-kili, as these parts can also get you excited for what’s to come. Try doing different positions. That could help too!
Kahit anong gawin mo, there’s no wrong way to pleasure yourself. Discovering your body and creating new ways to get that big release is all up to you.
So don’t be afraid to experiment. It’s your body anyway. Own it and have fun with it! #takeitfromthesexymind
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If you have questions on love and sex that you want me to answer, you may message me at www.facebook.com/TheSexyMind or DM me on Twitter or Instagram: @_ricacruz.
Biography: Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist and Sex Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Sex Therapist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.
