By: Rica Cruz
Hi Rica,
Kindly let us know when is the right time to put a condom on? Do we have to wait until IT’S completely hard? Ako ba dapat maglagay or siya?
No Clue
Dear No Clue,
Horray for being open to use protection! Nowadays, we all need to be advocating using protection, especially for casual encounters and such relationships where safety can be uncertain.
Even married couples are recommended to use condoms!
Okay, sino ang maglalagay? May mga taong gusto na sila mismo ang nagsusuot, maybe they’re more comfortable that way.
But there are also others who find it stimulating and enjoyable when their partners do it. Depending on your imagination, madami paraan for the other person to do it.
It really depends on what you guys prefer. I know it’s not as important as other people may seem, but talking about little things such as this may help you feel more relaxed and comfortable once you’re both enjoying each other’s company. So ask!
Next, kailan ba dapat ilagay? This is tricky, and it depends on the kind of condom you’re using. But in this case, given that you used “hard” to describe “it,” I would assume that you’re asking about the male condom.
Tama ka, it is recommended that you put the condom on once IT is erect and hard kasi putting it on when IT is flaccid increases the risk for the condom to be pulled out.
Yikes. AND it is also recommended to put it on BEFORE any kind of contact with a partner – may it be vaginal, oral, or anal. Yes! Kahit oral sex “lang” kailangan pa rin gamitan ng condom.
Bakit? If a penis is in contact with any other part of the body where fluid exchange could happen, it opens you both to the risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections.
Not only that, if you have vaginal intercourse without a condom first, then pull out and put a condom before the male reaches the big O, it doesn’t completely protect you or your partner from pregnancy! In short, pwede pa rin magkasakit, at pwede parin mabuntis o makabuntis.
Hence, it is always better to put a condom BEFORE any kind of insertion that’s going to happen. Sabi nga, it’s better to ALWAYS be safe and worry free, than not safe and praning afterwards. #takeitfromthesexymind
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Biography: Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist and Sex Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Sex Therapist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.
