NI: Rica Cruz
Hi Ms. Rica:
I am a college student and I currently have a boyfriend. I am sexually active and my boyfriend and I use protection. Pero whenever we do it, it doesn’t feel good because I tend to be dry most of the times. Then after, it feels very sore down there. Mahapdi na siya. I’ve used KY jelly, but it doesn’t seem to help. What can I do po?
Dry Female
Hi Dry Female,
I’m sorry you’re going through this. But I also would like to congratulate you for being responsible and using protection!
Well, it sounds like that you’re going through what we call “vaginal dryness.” It’s normal, and a lot of women feel this way.
Good news is that it can be treated! Let me explain it first:
What causes that dry feeling?
Not being fully in the mood to have sexy time.
– Not being fully aroused before he enters you.
– Feelings of stress, anxiety, and sadness.
– Taking medications and drugs that can cause drying (marijuana doesn’t help!).
– Taking birth control pills or other drugs that alters your hormones.
– Having an infection down there.
– Going through menopause (though this may not be your case!).
Usually, women who experience drought down there are prescribed to use lubricants. You said you already used KY and did not like it. Have you tried other brands?
I would suggest that you go for water-based lubricants as they’re considered the best form of lubricant for safe sex.
Though they can dry easily (maybe that’s the reason why you don’t like using them), adding a little bit of saliva or more lube can make them work their magic again!
But, if you’re prone to yeast infection, try to get those with less sugar and glycerin as ingredients.
Avoid using oil as lubricant as they tend to leave residue and break down the latex in your condom. Hence, stay away from your coconut oil, baby oil, and petroleum jelly. You don’t want them giving you some sort of irritation or worse, infection! Yikes.
Now, if you want to go for an all natural form of lubrication – I suggest that you use what’s available: Your saliva.
Spitting does wonders, and sometimes, it can also act as a turn on for both you and your boyfriend.
Or if you want something that’s more naturally occurring down there, try doing the deed during your period! It’s messy, but, there’s a lot of lubrication down there to help avoid that mahapdi feeling.
But with all these, what’s the most important thing that you can do? Relax and put more time in your foreplay.
Because the right amount of foreplay can get you wet and going. Good luck! #takeitfromthesexymind
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Biography: Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist and Sex Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Sex Therapist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.