by Rica Cruz
Hello Ms. Rica:
I’m a first-timer po in sex and my boyfriend is gifted down there. Problem is, I get really really sore after we do it. Masakit po na mahapdi. Even when we use a lot of lubricant and he does it very slowly, masakit pa rin po. Is this normal or should I go see a doctor na po?
Sore Girl
Hello Sore Girl,
I’m so sorry to hear that your experience in this world is not fun. Madaming dahilan kung bakit masakit at mahapdi ang nararamdaman mo during and after sex. Sabi mo, first-timer ka in this kind of activity. If that’s the case, your unstretched hymen may cause you pain. Lalo na kung si boyfriend ay may kalakihan, gaya ng sabi mo. Also, pwede ring manggaling ang sakit from the sudden stretching of your vaginal walls. Kasi, during penetration, pwedeng hindi lang hymen pero pati ang vaginal walls magstretch. Though, ideally, these will adapt to your boyfriend’s size over time.
Have you tried using dildos, vibrators or even fingers that are not as big as your boyfriend’s manhood? If you want to try, you could use these things and see if the soreness will go away. Kung hindi siya masakit, then it could be helpful to stop intercourse muna, and practice using other things that are comfortable in size. Gradually, your body will adapt to be able to take in your boyfriend without pain. Yay!
Aside from this, you also mentioned that you use a lot of lube. Though naturally, lube can help with the pain, the type of lube that you’re using could also be a factor. There are lubes that could irritate your vaginal canal, especially when they contain glycerine, are scented, or flavored. Also, if your lube are the cooling or heating ones, they could dry easily and burn your V, na nakakadagdag sa hapdi. I would suggest that you use water-based lubricants without glycerine or pwede ring silicone-based lubricants that are odor and flavor free.
Other possible reasons for your pain could be:
1) latex allergy (if you’re using latex condoms);
2) vaginal infections (bacterial or yeast) that could be aggravated by the friction during sexy time;
3) your sexual position (if your boyfriend is big, it may be helpful to change positions to ease the pain).
Kung nasa loob na loob naman ang sakit, it could be sign of a more seious problem. Whatever the reason is, it is highly recommended that you go to your doctor. Your doctor is in much better place to tell you what’s wrong and give you tips on how to reduce the pain so you can see the pleasure. Good luck! #takeitfromthesexymind
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Biography: Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist and Sex Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Sex Therapist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.
