By Rica Cruz
Hi Ms. Rica,
I’m an avid fan of your column sa Tempo and I just want to seek for answers that I think, matutulungan ninyo ako. I just want to know how my girlfriend got pregnant eh ever since naman po, nagwi-withdrawal kami. I know she is not cheating, pero paano siya nabuntis since I never came inside her? I know it is wrong but I am starting to have doubts on her.
Hoping for your response, Ms. Rica! Thank you and more power.
Doubtful Boyfriend
Hello Doubtful Boyfriend,
Thank you for reading my column. I hope you learn something from it.
Now for your concern: So basically, you’re doubting your girlfriend because she’s pregnant and you feel that you can’t be the father because you pull out every time you have intercourse, tama ba?
Well, here’s the good news: There’s a huge chance that your girlfriend may not be cheating on you and that you may very well be the father of the baby! In other words, nabuntis mo siya. Paano?
As a primary means of pregnancy prevention, withdrawal isn’t exactly the best. Why?
First, may pre-ejaculatory fluid na lumalabas sayo bago ka pa man mag-orgasm. In itself, it does not usually contain sperm, pero once the fluid makes its way out, pwede siyang makakuha ng live sperm na naiwan sa urethra mo from your previous ejaculation.
Kaya kahit hindi ka “matapos” sa loob ng girlfriend mo, basta pinasok mo without any form of protection (like condom), pwede mo siya mabuntis. Second, how good are you in self-control and consistency that you’re sure that every time before you climax, you get to pull out? Sigurado ka bang natatanggal mo at the right time tuwing nag-sesex kayo?
Pwede kasing hindi mo namamalayan that you’ve already ejaculated before you even pulled it out. In that case, there’s a bigger chance for your girlfriend to get pregnant.
As a matter of fact, this method has a failure rate of 22 percent. Meaning, around 22 women out of 100 can get pregnant kapag itong method ang ginagamit.
Kung sa tingin mo ay hindi naman siya nagchecheat sa yo, then, malamang, ikaw talaga ang nakabuntis sa kaniya.
The next question would be, how will you support and help her through this process? I would suggest that you two talk about this as soon as possible, para alam niyo rin kung paano matutulungan ang isa’t isa.
Also, it would be best if she goes to a doctor to have her health checked while going through this pregnancy. And while you’re there, pwede na rin kayong magtanong kung anong contraception ang pwede sa inyo para magamit in the future! Good luck! #takeitfromthesexymind
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Biography: Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Marriage Counselor, and Sex Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psychologist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.