By Rica Cruz
It is a few days to the New Year! Have you done your list of resolutions yet? Does it include your spouse, or your partner, or our significant other?
Does it have anything about sex? Malamang, your New Year’s resolutions revolve around getting healthier, having more money, travelling more…but what about your partner? What about sex?
Here’s a suggestion: How about making sexual intimacy with your significant other a part of your resolutions this coming 2018!? Exciting di ba?
Look through my list below so you’ll have ideas:
– Schedule quality intimate time each day. Usually, when we’re on automatic mode, we tend to forget to spend quality time with our partners. This 2018, promise to set aside a specific time each day to connect to one another and catch up on each other’s day.
This exercise can foster open communication between the two of you, which is important in building sexual intimacy in any relationship.
– Initiate more sexy time.
Physical connection is as much as crucial as verbal communication in a relationship. If you’re already doing that sexy time once a week, this 2018, why not make it twice a week? Or how about having quickies when possible?
Sex doesn’t always have to be slow and sensual, quickies could help you two get that satisfaction and intimacy too!
Say…lunch time?
– Get to know your bodies.
AKA masturbate! Playing with your body and exploring by yourself can help you figure out what excites and pleasures you in bed.
If you want, you may also play separately…or together and watch each other! You may also take turns playing with each other and asking what feels good and what doesn’t.
This would help lessen your inhibitions on sex, and on each other, and make you feel closer even in bed.
– Break your routine.
One of the reasons couples stop having sexy time is because they get bored with each other. What kills desire is doing the same thing over and over again. So play it up. Leave the bedroom. Go to a hotel. Use toys. Lubricate! Fantasize and Role play.
There are tons of things to do that can excite both of you and help you discover a whole new world of sexy play.
– Leave the phone out of the bedroom.
Most couples get to bed, lie down together, then start tinkering on their phones. They spend a good hour on social media, games, or just browsing the net, without even talking to their partners.
Many couples are not aware that their times on their phones contribute a huge deal to their communication, intimacy, and overall relationship issues.
So this 2018, make it a point that when you’re in the bedroom, you connect with each other, you play with each other, you touch each other and you pleasure each other and you stay away from your phones.
#takeitfromthesexymind
Happy New Year! Happy New Sexy Time!
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If you have questions on love and sex that you want me to answer, you may message me at www.facebook.com/TheSexyMind or DM me on Twitter or Instagram: @_ricacruz.
Biography: Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Marriage Counselor, and Sex Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psychologist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.
