By Rica Cruz
Dear Rica,
Do penis pumps work? I want to buy one because I feel that my thing down there is not that big. What’s the average size ba for us?
Curious Pinoy
Hello Curious Pinoy,
Let me go straight to the point and tell you the penis pumps do not work. You are actually putting yourself up for risks of infection, irritation, and even fracture by using such a devise. Yikes.
How are you sure that your penis is not THAT big? With whom are you comparing the size of your penis?
Let it be known that the average length of a flaccid, unaroused, penis is around three to four inches. The average length of an erect penis is between five and seven inches.
So, it is more probably that your penis is just the right size. Technically, a penis is only considered small if it measures less than three inches when fully erect.
Studies have shown us that Filipinos are actually in the middle of all that sizing up. Meaning, Filipino men have average-sized penises! In truth, about 85 percent of men tend to over-estimate the average size of the penis.
And this misconception usually is accompanied by their insecurities – just like your concern about not being “big enough.” These insecurities may come from seeing well-endowed men in pornography, media, and even exagerrated stories of big penises.
Hence, it’s really not surprising that most men would think that they do not “measure up.” But in reality, they’re just the right size.
Also, studies have consistently proven that whatever your size is, it is what you do with your mind and body that is more important to sexual partners.
While yes, there may be some people who would prefer a bigger-than-average penis, most partners would also report of getting absolute pleasure through communication and skill regardless how well or little-endowed their partner is.
In reality, bigger penises have also been associated with problems in oral, vaginal, and anal sex.
Now, if you’re still feeling self-conscious about your size, I would suggest that you try to figure out where this is coming from.
When did you start feeling conscious about your size? What exactly is it about your penis that you do not like? Was there a bad experience with your partner that you cannot let go of?
Knowing the root of this insecurity, may help alleviate your worries.
Lastly, let me reiterate that products out there which promise to give you a better manhood can actually give you more harm that pleasure. As of this moment, there are no products or techniques that have been proven effective for penis enlargement. So be careful. #takeitfromthesexymind.
Love and lust,
Rica
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If you have questions on love and sex that you want me to answer, you may message me at www.facebook.com/TheSexyMind or DM me on Twitter or Instagram: @_ricacruz.
Biography: Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Marriage Counselor, and Sex Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psychologist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.
