By Rica Cruz
Hi Ms. Rica,
I’m a female currently in a relationship with another female. First time po namin to be with another woman. Sabi niyo po kailangan safe sex palagi. Paano po ba gagawin to kapag dalawang babae? All we know are condoms, but what can we use if we’re both girls?
Woman on Woman
Hi Woman on Woman,
Thank you for being open about your concerns and your current relationships.
Katulad mo, madaming iba na hindi aware na mayroon risk ang girl-to-girl or woman-to-woman sex.
Even though women who have sex exclusively with other women have a lower risk for sexually transmitted infections than those in heterosexual or bisexual relationships, mayroon pa ring chance na magkaroon ng infection. Kaya, it’s really good that you’re asking about it.
Bacterial vaginosis, chlamydia, genital herpes, human papilloma virus, public lice, and trichomonasis are the STIs that are more common with WSW.
Knowing this, here are some ways that you can practice safer sex between the two of you:
– When you’re doing oral sex (cunnilingus), you have to cover the entire vaginal area or anal area with a dental dam (latex sheet). Dahil hindi uso sa Pilipinas ang dental dam, you can use substitutes like a non-microwavable plastic wrap. Pwede niyo rin naman gamitin ang male condom, cut it open and use it as a cover.
– During vulva to vulva contact, it is also important to have a kind of barrier such as the ones mentioned above for protection.
– If you and your partner are into finger penetration, it is also important to wash your hands before the act. Make sure that you cover any cuts or sores on your fingers with a latex glove or a condom before you insert any of them.
Using a lubricant during penetration can help in making the both of you feel more comfortable.
– When moving from one area to another (your vagina to her vagina) or (vaginal to anal) it is also important to change gloves or condoms para hindi mailipat sa iba ang fluids or bacteria.
– If you and your partner love to play with sex toys, it’s also recommended that you cover them with a condom or a kind of latex barrier before using. Again, don’t forget to change the condom when sharing toys!
These are just a couple of things that you can do to ensure safer sex and prevent STI transmission.
What’s more important and critical is to talk about these things with your partner. What methods do you want to use?
Are you both willing to get tested to be on the safer side? Will your sexual relationship be exclusive with one another? What other behaviors are you willing to try?
Talk about it, practice it, and you’ll be more comfortable enjoying each other! Have fun. #takeitfromthesexymind.
With love and lust,
Rica
If you have questions on love and sex that you want me to answer, you may message me at www.facebook.com/TheSexyMind.
Biography: Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Marriage Counselor, and, Couples and Sex Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psychologist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.
