By Rica Cruz
Ms. Rica Cruz,
I am 48 and a father of a 13-year-old young man. Noong minsan pagpasok ko sa banyo, nahuli ko syang nagma-masturbate.
Parehas kaming nagulat. Pero noong nagkaroon ng chance ay pinag-usapan namin yung nangyari. He has been masturbating almost every chance that he gets for the past year daw. I am not very fond of masturbating even when I was younger e.
Siguro growing with a Catholic family and being taught it is a bad thing.
In addition, medyo masakit daw minsan when my son masturbates. Nakakakita pa nga daw sya ng mga tiny veins na bago. I told him that’s normal but deep inside I am quite worried because hindi ako sobrang experienced and I really have no idea kung ano ang sasabihin ko. Help naman po.
Thank you.
Big Daddy
Hello Big Daddy!
Ang cute naman ng inyong father and son encounter. Medyo awkward pero I am sure na later on matatawa kayo sa memory na ‘yan. And do not worry, you handled the situation well and the fact na your son opened up to you means that he trusts you and you opinion on the matter.
Well, on your son’s problem na masakit at may lumalabas na veins, pwede itong sanhi ng friction o kaya naman ung pagka sikip ng grip niya sa penis when he masturbates. Sabihin mo chill lang sya at wag masyadong manggigil. It may also help to loosen the grip a bit or kaya pwede din nya iexplore ang pag gamit ng ina’t ibang lubricants. Pwede din nyang gamitin ‘yung non dominant hand nya for variety.
Tungkol naman sa kung gaano kadalas siya mag masturbate, I hope that this is not a problem for you kasi normal nga yan for his age. Dahil ito sa hormones na kasama ng pagbibinata!
Above all this, I think kailangan mo din ievaluate how you view masturbation in general, para magabayan mo ang iyong anak. Ano ba ang mga factors na nagcontribute sa pananaw mo dito? It may help you be more comfortable with talking about it with your son. Sa totoo lang, masturbation gives us a lot of health benefits na kailangan natin hanggang pagtanda.
I am a firm believer na dapat sa pamilya naguumpisa ang mga alam natin tungkol sa sex. Kaya magandang pangitain yan na open kayo ng anak mo sa isa’t isa tungkol dito. This way, alam mong tama ang nakukuha niyang impormasyon at matutulungan mo siya to explore his sexuality in a safe and healthy way. Keep up the good work, Big Daddy!
#takeitfromthesexymind
With love and lust,
Rica
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Biography: Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Marriage Counselor, and, Sex and Relationships Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psychologist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.
