By Rica Cruz
Hi Ms. Rica,
Meron po akong dine-date na girl for a couple of months na. Parehas pa po kaming hindi tapos sa pag-aaral so we are trying to be careful and doing our best to avoid an unplanned pregnancy. I enjoy getting oral sex and ang bilis ko pa ngang ma-arouse konting hawak lang, tigas na agad. Pero every time na magsusuot ako ng condom para makapagsex na kami, lumalambot na and hirap na akong magkaroon ng erection ulit. Ayaw naman po naming irisk na huwag mag-condom at baka mabuntis po siya. Paano po kayang magandang gawin?
Buko Juicer
Hello din sa ‘yo, Buko Juicer,
Unang una, I applaud you and your girlfriend for using protection. Mahalaga ang paggamit ng protection habang ine-explore ninyo ang inyong sexual relationship. Very mature and responsible ang move na ito at sana ay maging practice siya ng mas maraming tao na active sa sex.
Common ang ganitong experience. Sa totoo lang, 52 percent ng mga kalalakihan ay nakakaexperience ng pagkawala ng paglambot ng ari before, during, or after magsuot na ng condom. Maaaring yung pag-pause nyo from sexual foreplay or stimulation at pagsuot ng condom ang nakabitin sa pag-tuloy tuloy ng erection mo. Pwede mong i-ask ang iyong partner to continuously stimulate you habang nagsusuot ng kapote si manoy.
Kailangan mo din icheck kung tama lang ba ang size ng condom mo sa iyong ari. Pag maluwag or masikip masyado, nakakacontribute ito sa paglambot. Marami nang varieties ng condom ngayon, try to experiment kung anong material ang mas nagwo-work for you.
May iba’t ibang thickness na din na pwedeng mag-enhance ng sensation na nararamdaman mo during penetration.
If unplanned pregnancy is your concern, baka pwede ninyo rin iconsider to use other forms of contraception like an oral pill or IUD. Kausapin mo ang partner mo and maybe you can also consult a healthcare professional.
Kung feeling mo naman ay psychological ang issue mo, pwede kang lumapit at magconsulta sa isang psychologist or counselor. Stress, anxiety, and depression may affect your drive too. Do not be afraid to seek help.
I wish you and your girlfriend the best in enhancing your sexual relationship. I believe that you can help each other in figuring out what will be a good arrangement for the both of you. Continue to be safe and always enjoy. Relax ka lang. These things are not as hard (ooops or dapat maging mas hard) as you think.
With love and lust,
Rica
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If you have questions on love and sex that you want me to answer, you may message me at www.facebook.com/TheSexyMind.
Biography: Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Marriage Counselor, and, Couples and Sex Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psychologist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.
