By RICA CRUZ
Dear Ma’am Rica,
I have a girlfriend pero magkaiba kami ng sexual history. I am still a virgin while my girlfriend has more experience than me. We are planning to have sex soon pero parang natatakot ako. Kapag kasama namin mga friends niya, minsan nag-bibiruan sila about how a vibrator is better in satisfying than a real penis lalo na kung maliit ito. Hindi ko tuloy alam kung paano ko siya masa-satisfy. I want her to be pleased pero I am hoping na manggagaling ‘yon sa akin instead of a machine. Patulong naman sana as my penis is just average size. Salamat.
Rage Against the Machine
Hi Rage Against the Machine,
Hindi ka nag-iisa dahil madaming mga lalaki ang iniisip ang satisfaction ng kanilang mga partner due to certain factors. Madaming nawawalan ng confidence dahil iniisip nila na hindi ganoon kalaki ang kanilang “kargada.”
Pero while some women may prefer bigger penises, marami ding nagsasabi na it is more about how good you are in using other parts of the body to give and receive pleasure.
You have your tongue, fingers, and others to help you please her. Most women get pleasure from clitoral stimulation. So kung kaya mong paglaruan ang parte na ito ng kaniyang katawan ay hindi malayong mapapasaya mo siya.
Bago ka mag-alala about the comments of your girlfriend’s friends, isipin mo muna at kausapin ang iyong partner. Baka naman siya na mismo ang magsabi sa iyo that you are okay and hindi na niya kailangan ng vibrator or to worry yourself about sex.
Kailangan mong magkaroon ng self-confidence and mas maging open sa iyong feelings. The emotional bond will enhance and help with your sexual issues.
Men are usually scared of sex toys thinking na hindi sila enough in satisfying their partners but in reality, you can use these toys to your advantage. Pwede mo gamitin ang mga laruang ito to help you in satisfying your partner. Imbes na matakot sa toys, isipin mo na puwede pa nitong lalong mapasarapang inyong sexy time. Good luck! #takeitfromthesexymind
With love and lust,
Rica
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If you have questions on love and sex that you want me to answer, you may message me at www.facebook.com/TheSexyMind
(Biography: Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Marriage Counselor, and, Sex and Relationships Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psychologist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.)
