By RICA CRUZ
Dear Ms. Rica,
Me and my boyfriend want to start having sex pero usually we do oral sex na. Lagi kong sinasabi sa kanya na dapat when we start having sex, mag-condom siya. Hindi naman sya kontra sa thought na yon. We are both virgins kasi. Ang tanong ko lang ay kelan ba isinusuot ang condom? Kailangan ba ako ang magsuot nun sa kanya or sya ang mismong magsusuot? Sorry po kasi we are new to this. Thank you.
Newbie
Hello Newbie,
First of all, wag kang magso-sorry for trying to get information about condoms. Most especially dahil you are making the proper step na wanting to have protection before you engage in sexual activity with your boyfriend. Since you guys are already having oral sex, usual progression you move to actual penetration. It is commendable that you both are trying to take precaution in doing this, also in asking for advice.
Either of you naman ay pwedeng magsuot ng condom sa iyong boyfriend. Depende lang sa preference. May guys na gustong sila na mismo ang nagsusuot nito at meron din namang they prefer their partner doing it because they find it sexy and enjoyable. While this pause may seem disruptive sa ibang tao, may potential din itong maging part ng foreplay ninyo before actual penetration. Talk about it or start experimenting on your first few tries.
About naman sa kung kailan, mas magandang isuot ito kapag erect na ang penis bago ang any oral, vaginal, or anal contact with your partner. Some people say na kailangan lang siyang isuot before ejaculation pero hindi ito nakaka protect completely sa mga sexually transmitted infections. Pwede ring magkaroon din ng risk of pregnancy due to pre-ejaculate na maaaring may sperm nakasama!
Kaya mas maigi na magsuot agad ng condom bago pa man ang kahit na anong contact. Kung naka-erect na ang penis ay pwede mo na itong suotan. Para mas safe at walang worries! #takeitfromthesexymind
With Love and Lust,
Rica
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(Biography: Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Marriage Counselor, and, Sex and Relationships Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psychologist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.)
