Dear Manay Gina,
My son is gay and I noticed, he has an inferiority complex. I sense that he has little personal contact with his peers, maybe because he thinks he’s different. I see that he has a hard time blending in because he says he feels he is being discriminated because of his sexuality. He’s fourteen years old. Any suggestions in handling this?
Loi
Dear Loi,
He is what he is and there’s nothing wrong with that. So, advise him to respect himself, his decisions and the person he is.
Sadly, we cannot prevent discrimination. Truth is, he’s not going to like everyone and everyone is not going to like him. In dealing with discrimination, the most important single factor is to know how to get along with people. Giving positive signals to another, even though that person hasn’t shown any yet, can instantly lift the interaction to a totally new level. Share this to your son.
Encourage him also to work on being a more positive person by eliminating the thought that he’s not good enough. It’s important therefore that he surrounds himself with positive people. Look, if somebody told him enough times that he ‘s a loser, after a while he would probably start believing them. So, he needs to surround himself with encouraging people, who believe in him like you and your husband, his family.
Lastly, tell him to concentrate on making a great success out of his life. Everybody loves a winner.
With affection,
Manay Gina
“In the long run, there is not much discrimination against superior talent.” – Carter G. Woodson
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