Dear Ms. Rica,
Narinig ko po sa isa sa mga talks niyo that almost half of women fake orgasms. Paano po ba malalaman kung nag-orgasm at nag-enjoy ang partner ko? Hindi ko po kasi alam kung nag-orgasm po siya. Salamat!
No Wonder
Hello No Wonder,
It’s good that you’re thinking about your partner’s pleasure at hindi pleasure mo lang ang iyong iniisip. Well, the simplest answer to your question is to ask your partner. Though I know na medyo mahirap for some women to admit that they did not orgasm for fear na baka masaktan ang ego ng mga partners nila, approaching it with an open mind and curiousity may help her open up to you.
Communicating during and after sexy time is the most certain way to know if your partner has reached the big O, plus it will also help in making new and enjoyable sexual experiences for you both.
Though walang iisang way to know if a person has orgasmed other than asking them (and hoping that they will be honest), knowing the science behind it may help you determine kung nagorgasm nga ang partner mo. Usually, kapag ang mga babae ay nagoorgasm, may nararamdaman silang pagsisikip sa pelvic area, rapid increase in heart rate, blood pressure, at paghinga. Mayroon ding mga nageejaculate or nagkakaroon ng additional lubrication at wetness, pero hindi lahat ay nararanasan ito. Kapag nagoorgasm, nagkakaroon din ng contractions in the vaginal area, uterus, at pelvic floor muscles ang mga babae.
Pagkatapos ng pagcontract ay mag-rerelax na ang buong katawan at babalik na sa normal ang heart rate, blood pressure, at breathing ng babae. Kung maramdaman mo ang pagcontract at mapansin mo ang mga ganitong pagbabago sa iyong partner, ay pwede itong mga senyales na siya ay nagorgasm.
Keep in mind na hindi lahat ng sexual experiences ay kailangan magtapos sa orgasm. May mga babae na kaya makaranas ng sexual pleasure kahit hindi sila nagclimax.
To know what your partner wants, it’s really important that you keep an open channel of sexual communication with her. Makakatulong din kung alam mo kung paano siya isstimulate through vaginal and clitoral means para siya magorgasm.
And you will only know these things if you ask her what she wants. So open up and ask! And remember, to always be safe! #takeitfromthesexymind
With Love and Lust,
Rica
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Biography: Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Marriage Counselor, and, Sex and Relationships Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psychologist on Boys’ Night Out every
