Hi Ms. Rica,
Ano po ang gagawin ko kung ayaw gumamit ng condom ang girlfriend ko? Sabi niya, hindi daw masarap para sa amin kung may condom. Para sa akin naman, gusto ko maging safe kaming dalawa at hindi pa ako ready na magkaanak. Ano pong pwedeng kong gawin to convince her na magcondom kami?
Salamat po.
Soldier Boy
Hello Soldier Boy,
I salute you for being responsible and thinking about your and your girlfriend’s safety when it comes to having sexual intercourse. Mukha namang nagkakausap kayong dalawa tungkol sa mga ganitong bagay bagay, at maganda iyon para sa inyong relationship.
Practicing safe sex really should come from both parties para ito maging successful. Maaaring ang pagayaw ng girlfriend mo to use condoms ay based on her past experiences. Baka sa experiences niya ay hindi naging pleasurable para sa kaniya ang paggamit ng condom. Pero, madaming pwedeng gawin para maiwasan ang pagkawala ng pleasure kapag gumagamit ng condoms. In fact, madami nang iba’t ibang klase ng condom ngayon that could even heighten and enhance the pleasure of both partners! Some condoms can even help you delay orgasm for longer sexy time for the both of you!
Isang tip para maging pleasurable and sexy time niyo even with the use of condoms is to put water-based lubricant inside and outside of the condom. Pwede rin kayong gumamit ng iba’t ibang sensation-enhancing lubricant o condom katulad ng flavored condoms para mas enjoyable ang experience. It’s probably a good idea to talk to your girlfriend about these options. Pwede ngang magexperiement kayo with different types, textures, thickness of condoms during your sexy time para malaman niyo what works best for you both.
Kung hindi pa rin gusto ng girlfriend mo to use condoms, and you know that you’re both STI-free and your sexual relationship is mutually exclusive, then you can also suggest for you to look at alternative methods of birth control. Pwede kayong pumunta sa doctor para matulungan niya kayo dito. Other than that, I woujld really suggest that you both continue talking about these issues until you find a solution para maging pleasure-filled and worry-free ang inyong sexy time! Good luck and always, be safe!
With love and lust,
Rica
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(Biography: Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Marriage Counselor, and, Sex and Relationships Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psychologist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.)
