Hi Ms. Rica,
Nag BJ po ako sa boyfriend ko, tapos wala pang isang minuto nung natapos siya. Is that normal? Ibig sabihin po ba nun na magaling ako mag-BJ?
BJ Girl
Hello BJ Girl,
Congratulations at mukhang ginalingan mo nga para sa iyong partner. Though, may iba’t ibang factors na kailangan i-consider when we talk about a person’s orgasm, so it’s difficult to really pinpoint what made your boyfriend come in less than a minute. Mayroong mga instances na mabilis labasan ang mga lalake (at kahit mga babae).
Depende ‘yun sa emotional at physical reactions niya na nakakaapekto sa kaniyang thoughts, blood flow, sensitivity, and arousal. Kapag pinagsama sama mo ito, with the pressure, sensation, and friction from your tongue, mouth, lips, saliva, etc., ito naman ang nakakaapekto sa kaniyang erection, lubrication, and time from arousal to ejaculation.
So para malaman kung ano talaga ang dahilan sa kaniyang mabilis na pagtatapos, it may be key to ask him directly!
Ano kayang ginawa mo para masarapan siya agad? May natamaan ka ba with your tongue? Or baka may pressure from your hands or fingers na nakapagpatapos sa kaniya.
It would be helpful kung matatanong mo sa kaniya kung ano ba ang nagustuhan niya. Was it the friction? The pressure? The thoughts? Your scent?
Similarly, ikaw din, pwede mong sabihin sa kaniya kung ano naman ang magugustuhan mo. Kung palaging natatapos ang boyfriend mo nang mabilisan, it is crucial na hindi ikaw nabibitin.
Because sex is a two way street. Kung nasarapan siya, dapat masarapan ka rin!
If you see your boyfriend’s “fast” reaction as a problem, baka rin makatulong kung magtry kayo ng mga techniques like the “squeeze method” and the “start-stop method” to help him last longer.
You may also want to focus on more foreplay para hindi siya maexcite masyado. Kung ano man ang gusto niyong gawin, it is always best to keep an open communication para maging pleasurable for the both of you ang inyong sexual experience. Good luck!
With love and lust,
Rica
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Biography: Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Marriage Counselor, and, Couples and Sex Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psychologist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.