Unhappy husband

Hi Ms. Rica,

I am married and have been unhappy with my wife. Parang wala nang okay sa amin. Hindi na kami nag “I love you” at kahit anong lambing ay wala na rin. Hindi na ako masaya. Anong gagawin ko?

Unhappy Husband

Hello Unhappy Husband,

I am sorry that you’re going through this. Although normal na­man sa isang magasawa to have moments of sadness or unhappi­ness sa isa’t isa, hindi ito dapat tumatagal. The fact that you don’t kiss nor hug each other anymore is a sign na parang may mali sa inyong marriage.

Napagusapan niyo na ba ito? Have you already told her your feelings? How did she respond? Kung hindi mo pa siya nakakau­sap, it would be best to ask her how she feels about you and your marriage, then sabihin mo naman sa kaniya yung side mo.

Being open about this is the first step to understand the state of your marriage, para makapagde­cide din kayo pareho on what to do about it.

Baka makatulong if you talk outside of your house. Find a quiet and neutral place where you both can sit down and talk about things.

Kung hindi niyo kaya magusap honestly about this, it may be best to get the help of a professional. Couples counseling is beneficial for partners who have difficulties communicating with each other.

Mahirap to be in an unhappy marriage. Minsan, nakakapagod when you do not feel loved nor appreciated.

Pero often, ang pagtatanggap ng problema is the first step to a resolution. It does sound like you’re willing to change the situ­ation, and that’s good.

To move forward, know that you have to be as open and as honest as you can about your feelings towards your wife. That way, malalaman niya ang pinag­daraanan mo and she can also open up about her thoughts and feelings.

Just remember to accept what she says the same way that you want your views to be accepted. Hopefully, makapagusap kayo, and you’ll be able to come up with ways to revitalize your mar­riage and get that sexy spark back again!

Good luck!

With love and lust,

Rica

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Biography: Rica Cruz is a Li­censed Psychologist, Marriage Counselor, and Sex Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psychologist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.