What’s in a man’s mind

Hi Ms. Rica,

I want to know more about fantasies ng mga lalaki. Ano po ba ang iniiisip nila when they’re watching porn or looking at adult mag­azines at kapag nagma­maasturbate sila?

Curious Cat

Hello Curious Cat,

It is interesting nga to wonder about what men think of while having sex or while masturbating. Pero sa totoo lang, hindi natin malalaman exactly kung anong iniisip nila kasi wala namang for­mula or standard when it comes to fantasies. Sexual fantasies are dependent on the individual regard­less of gender or sexual identity. Walang normal or abnormal when it comes to fantasies, kahit ano pwede, as long as they stay in the mind.

However, according to research, may mga over­lap ang sexual fantasies ng mga babae at lalake.

Though mas madalas na fantasy ng mga lalake ang tungkol sa sexual domi­nation at pagkakaroon ng impersonal or casual sexual relationships with others. Para sa mga babae naman, mas madami ang nagsasabing mas gusto nila ang sexual submis­sion at pagkakaroon ng romance and intimacy in their sexual fantasies.

Other common fantasies in both men and women include giving and re­ceiving oral sex, having threesomes and orgies with strangers, watching other people have sex, having anal sex. Overall, malawak ang range ng sexual fantasies ng mga tao. May mga tao who fan­tasize more than others. And for men and women, madaming pagkakapareho ang kanilang fantasies. Though it’s important to note that some people fantasize about things that they may NOT want to do in real life. So it doesn’t necessarily mean that if a man fantasizes about having a threesome, ibig sabihin gusto niya talaga gawin ito. Kung baga, hanggang pantasya lang talaga.

With Love and Lust,

Rica

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Biography: Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psycholo­gist, Marriage Counselor, and, Sex and Relationships Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psycholo­gist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.