Teach children about love, kindness

AS many educators explain, learning values begins at home. The school cannot empha­size or reinforce something which does not exist. It cannot even ef­fectively contradict what is accept­ed in the homes. For example, the simple use of “po” and “opo,” is taught to show respect to elders. Although respect can be shown in other ways, the use of “po” and “opo” in the Filipino culture is important. If children grew up in homes where the use of such was never taught and encouraged, do you think they will even exert an effort when the teacher is not around? Even if they do, who will help reinforce the use of such ex­pressions when they are outside the school?

Following a schedule helps de­velop sensitivity and consideration. If children are aware that 1 pm–3 pm is siesta time for the grand­parents, they will be careful not to create any unnecessary noise. If they know that a certain time of the week is for the family, they will do something to make themselves available. They have to know. Sometimes even adults make other plans because the parents, not wanting to sound demanding – never told them they were ex­pected.

Helping a person in need and asking children how they would feel if they were in somebody’s situation also helps them become considerate. It is like a reminder that nothing in life is certain. There is no guarantee that a per­son will never find himself in an­other’s unfortunate situation. Life is a wheel.

Giving children simple age-ap­propriate tasks is very important to develop empathy and a sense of responsibility. If they know how much effort it takes to clean a dirty floor, they will help maintain its cleanliness. If they help in tak­ing care of younger siblings and looking after sick family members, they will learn how to be con­cerned about others’ well-being and safety.

Encouraging children to give something which they like for themselves is also important. Teach them to share their toys and food. Show them how to give even to those who cannot repay them. Adults do not become self­ish overnight. Many of them have always been on the receiving end because they were never taught how to share the simplest things. Simple things matter.

Teach children to care in ways that are easy to understand. Show them. Someone said “The best lesson you can give is the life you live.”