How to make out

Hi Ms. Rica,

Ano po bang puwedeng gawin kapag nakikipag-make­out lang? Pag nag-momol kasi kami ng boyfriend ko, hindi ko po alam kung saan ilalagay yung kamay ko, at ano pang puwede kong hawakan sa kaniya. What do boys like po ba?

                                                                                                Curious Girl

Hello Curious Girl,

Sounds like you’re starting to explore your sexual self with your boyfriend! This is an exciting time, especially kung alam mo kung ano rin ang gusto mo when it comes to making out.

Where do you want to be touched? How do you want to be touched? At paano mo sinasabi ito sa iyong boyfriend?

I’m asking you these things be­fore answering your question kasi importanteng alam mo kung anong nakakapagpasarap sa momol ses­sions niyo at nasasabi mo ito sa boyfriend mo. Same way na dapat ay maitanong mo siya ng diretso at masabi niya sayo kung anong gusto niya kapag nag-momol kayo.

Clothes on or clothes off, ang buong katawan natin ay puno ng sensitive nerve endings that can be pleasurable to touch, lalo na dur­ing a makeout session. However, hindi lahat ng tao ay pare-pareho ng gusto, kaya dapat alamin mo kung ano ang magugustuhan ng boyfriend mo…from him!

So paano mo ba siya tatanungin? You can start by asking him where he wants to be touched. Tanungin mo rin siya kung anong feeling niya kapag nilalagay mo ang ka­may mo sa ulo niya, sa likod, sa dibdib, or even sa kili kili!

Mas mainam na mag-usap muna kayo BEFORE the momol para hindi mapressure ang boy­friend mo at mawala ang inyong arousal. You can also talk about what feels good for you.

During momol time naman, don’t forget to constantly ask for feedback, “gusto mo ba ito?” at magbigay ka din ng feedback and learn to say “I like that” or “that feels good,” kung gusto mo ang ginagawa niya.

This way, pareho kayong matu­tuto about each other. You’ll both be the student and the teacher and as a result you’ll both enjoy the momol time at the same time! Exciting!

With love and lust,

Rica

* * *

If you have questions on love and sex that you want me to an­swer, you may message me at www.facebook.com/TheSexyMind or DM me on Twitter or Insta­gram: @_ricacruz.

Biography: Rica Cruz is a Li­censed Psychologist, Marriage Counselor, and Sex Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psy­chologist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.