No orgasm during sex

Hi Ms Rica,

Tatanong ko lang po kung may mali po ba sa akin kung hindi po ako natatapos kapag intercourse po? Nagcu­cum lang po ako kapag hinahawakan ang clit, pero hindi po kapag in­tercourse na. May mga puwede po ba gawin para magcum during sexual intercourse?

                                                                        Penetrate Me

Hello Penetrate Me,

Thanks for writing! First of all, normal at common lang para sa ating mga babae na hindi mag-or­gasm through sexual in­tercourse or penetration. Sa totoo lang, 25 percent lang ng mga babae ang nag-o-orgasm during in­tercourse, kaya hindi ka nag-iisa at lalong-lalong walang mali sa iyo.

Mahalaga ang role ng clitoris para makapag-or­gasm ang mga babae. Ito ay may madaming nerve endings na nakakapag­stimulate to orgasm, ha­bang ang vagina ay wala gaanong nerve endings to make you feel good.

Kaya kung gusto mo mag-cum during penetra­tion, kailangan ay may di­rect stimulation o pressure sa iyong clitoral area.

How can you do that?

1. You or your partner can rub or touch your clitoris before, during, or after intercourse. You can guide your partner by placing his fingers on top of your clitoris or vulva kung saan masarap para sa ‘yo.
2. Have fun with fore­play. You may want your partner to first touch, rub, kiss, or lick your vulva and clitoris, with his hands, mouth, or penis. Most women respond well to and experience intense orgasms through oral sex dahil sa direct focus nito on the clitoris!
3. Use lubricant. Direct dry stimulation may hurt your clitoris. Kaya im­portante ang lubrication. Puwedeng gamitin ang laway (for free!) or you can also buy water-based lubricants sa iyong suking tindahan!
4. Try other sex posi­tions. Madaming babae ang nagsasabing mas nakakapag-orgasm sila kapag sila ang nasa iba­baw.

When you’re on top, you have more control over the stimulation, the rhythm, and the pacing of the hump while his pubic bone stimulates your clito­ris. Puwede rin kayo mag-doggy and enter you from behind while you or your partner rubs and caresses your clitoris.

Be creative! Ang impor­tante ay may stimulation ang iyong clitoris para ma-achieve mo ang iyong orgasm!

Also, kung hindi kaya through penetration, that’s totally normal, kaya huwag kang masyadong ma-stress. There are a lot of other ways that you can reach that big-O! Have fun!

Love and lust,

Rica

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Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Sex Thera­pist and Sex Educator. Follow her at facebook.com/TheSexyMind and @_ricacruz in Twitter and IG and subscribe to her YouTube channel, Count To Ten.