Dear Ms. Rica,
Ngayong naka-ECQ tayo, hindi kami nakakapagkita ng boyfriend ko. Especially because PUI sya and he’s on strict quarantine. So we try to do other things over the phone or online. Nagiging curious tuloy ako with toys and dildos. Paano nga ba at bakit naimbento ang mga dildo?
Salamat,
I’m Like A Bird
Hello I’m Like A Bird,
We are in very trying times and of course we are being asked to practice social distancing and we have to be physically apart from our loved ones. I wish that your boyfriend remains healthy. It is a good way to maintain sexual intimacy by exploring other things that can help us attain pleasure.
It is also healthy that you are exploring toys that can enhance your sexual experience. Dildos are actually very historical. Ang sabi nila, the first dildo may have dated as far as 28,000 years ago. So kahit na noong Ice Age pa, humans have been using items to help them attain pleasure. Meron ding legend na si Queen Cleopatra uses hollow gourd na may bubuyog sa loob para magvibrate. Ang olive oil naman ay being used as the best lube available during that time. Of course, noong mga panahon na yon, karamihan ng mga lalaki ay kailangan magparticipate sa mga gera, leaving their wives alone for long periods of time.
Hence, they had to be creative to maintain their sexual appetites, kaya nagkaroon ng iba’t ibang way to achieve pleasure using dildos.
Sa panahon ngayon, marami nang materials, shapes, and sizes as well as functions na puwedeng pagpilian. ’ Yung acceptance din even in our market is starting to get some traction at nagiging mas open na rin ang mga tao with them. There are tons of available sources online about what kind you may be interested in.
Puwede ka rin mag-improvise kung anong mayroon ka sa bahay. I know some people use the haof brushes, markers, o iba pang bagay na phallic ang shape as a dildo. Make sure that they’re sanitized and clean before you insert them siyempre! You may actually use a condom over them just to be on the safer side. 🙂
Maganda din to involve your boyfriend and both of you can have fun together with toys once you can already be physically intimate together. I hope this helps. Always enjoy and be safe!
With love and lust,
Rica
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Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Sex and Relationships Therapist, Sex Educator. She opines that sexual empowerment for Filipinos is sexier than sex.
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