Hello Doc Rica,
Bakit po isang minuto lang tinatagal ko? Paano ko kaya patatagalin sarili ko?
Thank you,
Fast Comer
Hello Fast Comer,
Well, walang mabilis na solusyon at sagot sa tanong mo. Premature ejaculation ang tawag sa paglabas ng ejaculate nang mabilis (approximately one minute after insertion of the penis), nang walang voluntary control. It is actually a common sexual dysfunction, lalo na for men younger than 40.
Anong pwedeng rason nito? Pwedeng overstimulation, sexual performance anxiety, at puwede ring stress. Sa ibang lalaki, premature ejaculation could be a conditioned response. Kunyari, during your early sexual encounters noong bata ka, nagmamadali ka palagi kaya mabilis ang paglabas ng ejaculate, puwedeng naging habit na sya na nadala mo hanggang pagtanda. Isa pang rason is the lack of awareness of the sensations that could lead to orgasm, kaya nahihirapan kang i-control ang ejaculation.
Kung ano man ang rason for you, may mga solusyon na ginagamit in therapy na pwedeng makatulong. Two methods that you could read about is: 1. The start-stop method and 2. the squeeze method.
Sa start-stop method kailangan ay maging aware ka of how you feel before ejaculation o bago ka labasan. Kapag naramdaman mo na that you’re approaching orgasm, you have to stop stimulation. Kung baga, magpapahinga ka muna, kahit ilang segundo, para bumaba ang excitement. You may practice this method now, lalo na’t ECQ at may oras na gawin ito.
The squeeze method naman is done by squeezing a part of the head of the penis. It is a bit difficult to describe pero makakahanap ka ng tungkol dito sa Internet na puwede mong gayahin. When you squeeze the head of your penis in a certain way, it will take away your desire for ejaculation, para hindi ka labasan agad.
Through practice, these techniques will help you have more control on your ejaculatory response. But again, hindi agad-agad ang solusyon, kaya huwag ka magmamadali.
Relax ka lang. Good luck!
With love and lust,
Rica
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Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Sex and Relationships Therapist, Sex Educator. She opines that sexual empowerment for Filipinos is sexier than sex.
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