Hi Doc Rica,
Feeling ko po nakita ng mommy ko ang condoms ko. Ano po ang gagawin ko? Natatakot po ako!
Safe but Scared
Hello Safe but Scared,
First of all, let me congratulate you for being safe and protecting yourself. Importante ang pagkakaroon ng condom lalo na kung ikaw ay sexually active. Kung sigurado ka na nahanap ng mommy mo ang condoms mo, malamang ay naisip na niya na ikaw ay sexually active, pero hindi pa niya alam kung paano ka iaapproach. Kung hindi ka pa niya pinapagalitan, baka tulad mo ay nagiisip pa siya ng way for the conversation to be comfortable. In that regard, wala kang dapat katakutan.
While waiting for her to approach you, it may be helpful na magisip ka na ng mga bagay na gusto mong sabihin sa kaniya about your sexuality. Puwede ka rin magprepare ng mga tanong para matulungan ka niya. Sa totoo lang, sex education should start from your parents because they know a lot of things that they can help you with. Kung ayaw mo naman ng face-to-face conversation, baka mas madali if you send her a text message or an email when you’re ready to confront the situation. Otherwise, you can just stay quiet and wait for her to approach you.
Talking to your mom about sex can be awkward naman talaga. However, you can think of this as a way for you to show her how mature and responsible you are as an adult. Remember, you do not have to share with her all the details of your relationships, ang kailangan lang niya malaman ay nagiingat ka and that you know what you’re doing. Whatever your choice is, to wait for her to talk to you or to just stay quiet about this, it’s fine. Basta you know what you’re getting yourself into and that you are practicing safe and responsible sex. Good luck!
With love and lust,
Rica
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Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Sex and Relationships Therapist, Sex Educator. She opines that sexual empowerment for Filipinos is sexier than sex.
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