Hello Doc Rica,
I’m thinking of having casual sex pagkatapos ng ECQ. Pero totoo po ba na hindi puwedeng makipag sex without feelings? Ayoko pong mainlove.
Scared to Fall
Hello Scared to Fall,
To answer your question, I will share with you a note that I just wrote:
Sex isn’t just a function of your body, it is also dependent on your thoughts and emotions. This doesn’t mean that no strings attached sex (NSA) doesn’t exist…they do. However, it is crucial to spend time figuring out your emotional, mental, and physical needs before engaging in NSA sex (or any kind of sex for that matter.)
When you do engage in NSA sex, make sure that you are doing it by choice, completely aware of the repercussions of your actions. Give yourself permission to fulfill your desires, feel empowered by your sexual decisions, and be prepared to disengage at any time. Take the driver’s seat, have fun at the wheel, use it to your advantage, but always put your seatbelt on and know how to safely press on the brakes.
Men are more likely to orgasm during NSA sex. So if you’re a woman, it may be prudent not to expect great orgasmic sex from NSA encounters. Great sex takes time, effort, and of course, emotions.
Ibig sabihin, sex will always come with emotions – how you feel about that person, yourself, or even the situation. Pero, hindi mo naman kailangan ma-inlove kapag nakikipag-sex ka. Magkaiba kasi ang love sa sex. Kaya may mga taong kaya nilang makipagsex lang, pero hindi mainlove.
O kaya, kapag may nararamdaman na silang form of love in the casual sex encounter, sila na mismo ang lumalayo para hindi sila masaktan. Mahirap gawin ito, kaya kailangan ay prepared ka sa mga ganitong bagay-bagay bago ka makipag casual sex or NSA sa iba.
Importante na alam mo dapat ang intentions mo at kung ang gusto mong ma-achieve bago ka makipag casual sex. Kung sa tingin mo ay madali kang mai-inlove at di mo kayang makapag let go agad agad, then maybe casual sex is not for you. 🙂
Also, kailangan mo rin isipin na hindi pa tapos ang ating pandemic, kaya having casual sex may put you at greater risk of getting COVID. Kaya kailangan mag-ingat at sa lahat ng gagawin ay be safe, in more ways than one. Good luck!
With love and lust,
Rica
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Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Sex and Relationships Therapist, Sex Educator. She opines that sexual empowerment for Filipinos is sexier than sex.
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