BY RICA CRUZ
Hello Doc Rica,
I am 24-years-old and I dating this guy who gets me and is always very kind and thoughtful. As in okay po siya and I am very happy being around him. Medyo bago pa lang po kaming nagde-date and isa pa lang po ang naging boyfriend ko in the past. One time after our date, we were making out and touching each other. I noticed na his penis is smaller compared to my previous experience with my ex. I am scared po that if I have sex with him, it might not be pleasurable for me and it might ruin lahat ng okay about the two of us. I don’t want to be very disappointed sana. Totoo po bang size matters sa mga ganito?
Thank you po!
Purple Butterfly
Hello Purple Butterfly,
It sounds to me na excited ka sa iyong bagong dating life and I think it is a good thing that you are optimistic and you are finding a lot of good things about your new guy. To answer your question, maraming iba’t-ibang opinion tungkol sa penis size that contributes to sexual pleasure. While some consider na ang size is a big deal, meron din namang iba na kinoconsider ito na part lang of a bigger picture.
There are other factors sa pleasure kagaya ng kissing, touching, oral sex, intimacy, eye contact, breast, butt, at marami pang iba. Sabi nga ng iba, “Wala sa laki ng bangka ‘yan pero sa paraan ng pagsagwan.” And I think communication is really key para magcontribute kung ano nga ba ang pleasurable for both of you when it comes to sex. You can explore more ways with him on how to make the experience worthwhile and enjoyable for you both.
Be not afraid and ‘wag mong itong hayaang masira ang kung ano mang meron kayo ngayon. Be open, there might be surprises waiting for you! Pleasurable sexual relations come with being comfortable with each other and knowing what works for each other. Siyempre, hindi ito nangyayari overnight. So, huwag mo pangunahan, malay mo puwedeng siya pala ang right man with the right size for you! I-explore mo lang, always enjoy but always be safe.
With love and lust,
Doc Rica
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Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Sex and Relationships Therapist, Sex Educator. She opines that sexual empowerment for Filipinos is sexier than sex.
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