BY RICA CRUZ
Good Doc Rica,
I am a girl who is engaged but due to the pandemic, we had to delay the wedding. Lahat naman po ng relationships ko in the past were with boys only. Pero honestly, I have always doubted my sexuality. When I watch porn, I only enjoy lesbian porn. There are also times na I masturbate and fantasize about women. Is this normal or do I have to come out as a lesbian? Do I tell my partner before we get married? Thank you,
Cup Fantasy
Dear Cup Fantasy,
Thank you so much for your question and congratulations with your engagement. I want you to feel comfortable with your question. Lots of women feel this way and enjoy lesbian porn. Do not feel embarrassed about this.
Fantasies are normal and everyone has them. Iba iba naman ang mga purposes ng mga pantasya natin. Pwede kasi netong i-explore ‘yung mga element ng ating sexuality na maaring taboo or hindi tayo komportable sa ating buhay. Or pwede din naman itong exciting escape from the usual or routine na ating nararanasan. The brain is the central organ of pleasure, ayon sa mga research.
Kaya nga may mga babaeng nakakapag-orgasm batay lang sa mga pantasya nila. Maganda ding gamitin ang mga pantasya natin for arousal and to make sexual experiences pleasurable.
Sexual identity is defined by many factors. Hindi lamang ito dahil pinagpapantasyahan mo ang opposite or same sex mo. Physical, Emotional, Social networks, relationships and others matter in finding out your sexual identity. Maraming researchers ang nagsasabing isang spectrum ang sexuality. Ang homosexuality and heterosexuality ay nasa magkabilang dulo nito at maraming nasa gitna ng spectrum na ito. I feel that what you have to do is be comfortable with your sexuality, wag kang makulong with the definition or ikumpara ang iyong sarili, unique ka so be comfortable, girl!
Lastly, you can probably consider sharing your fantasies or desire to your partner. Malay mo magamit nyo ito with role playing or baka samahan ka pa nyang manood ng lesbian porn. It may be something that can spice up your sex life. Exciting ‘di ba? So good luck, be safe and enjoy!
With love and lust,
Doc Rica
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Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Sex and Relationships Therapist, and Sex Educator. Follow her at facebook.com/TheSexyMind and @_ricacruz in Twitter and IG.
