BY RICA CRUZ
Hi Doc Rica,
I met a girl online during the pandemic. We have high sexual energies so we would video sex during the lockdown kaya naman when we decided to meet up, we would always do it. Pero every time na magsusuot ako ng condom para makapagsex na kami, lumalambot na and hirap na akong magkaroon ng erection ulit. So we end up either doing 69 or we have to combine calendar and withdrawal methods. Help naman po so we can do it whenever we want with a condom.
Green Bag
Hi Green Bag,
Mahalaga ang paggamit ng protection habang ineexplore ninyo ang inyong sexual relationship. Very mature and responsible ang move na ito at sana ay maging practice sya ng mas maraming tao na active sa sex.
Common ang ganitong experience. Sa totoo lang, 52% ng mga kalalakihan ay nakakaexperience ng pagkawala ng erection before, during or after magsuot na ng condom. Maaaring yung pag-pause nyo from sexual foreplay or stimulation at pagsuot ng condom ang nakabitin sa pag-tuloy tuloy ng erection mo. Pwede mong i-ask ang iyong partner to continuously stimulate you while you put the condom on. Marami nang varieties ng condom ngayon, try to experiment kung anong material ang mas nagwo-work for you. May iba’t ibang thickness na din na pwedeng mag-enhance ng sensation na nararamdaman mo during penetration.
If unplanned pregnancy is your concern, baka pwede nyo rin iconsider to use other forms of contraception like an oral pill or IUD. Kausapin mo ang partner mo and maybe you can also consult a healthcare professional. Stress, anxiety and depression may affect your drive too. Do not be afraid to seek help.
I wish you and your girlfriend the best in enhancing your sexual relationship. I believe that you can help each other in figuring out what will be a good arrangement for the both of you. Explore, enjoy but always be safe.
With Love and Lust,
Doc Rica
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Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Sex and Relationships Therapist, and Sex Educator. Follow her at facebook.com/TheSexyMind and @_ricacruz in Twitter and IG.
