Dear Manay Gina,
I have a steady boyfriend for about two years now. But just weeks ago, he told me that he is uncomfortable having sex with me because he is afraid something will happen, like me getting pregnant. Then, later he suggested that we need to take a break from each other but said he still loves me. Then, I noticed that he started not to answer my calls when I just want to talk. I don’t get what’s going on. I’m a middle-aged woman and my options of finding the right guy is diminishing.
Nelly
Dear Nelly,
It pains me to be the one to tell you that what your boyfriend was trying to say is: “The romance is over.” As to what to do, salvage your dignity and avoid any more humiliating treatment by accepting that it’s over, stop asking him to give you reasons, and remove his number from your cell. Some guys are just emotionally clumsy.
And who says middle-aged women can’t find love again? It’s all in the attitude. If you’re young at heart, that’s all that matters. Besides, middle-aged women have “grown-up things” like good china and silver and could cook a great meal.
Affectionately,
Manay Gina
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– Gary Ryan Blair
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