Dear Ma’am Rica,
Me and my boyfriend haven’t had sex yet. Nasa stage kami na we are very heavy in touching each other. Yung boyfriend ko po ay magaling ang kamay at mukhang alam na alam niya kung saan ako hahawakan at hihipuin. Gusto ko sanang mag-reciprocate pero kulang ako sa experience. Mga once or twice ko nang tinry pero sabi niya lagi “okay lang ako na ‘yan” na parang polite way of saying niya na stop na muna and then I let him masturbate while I kiss him on the lips and neck. Paano ko ba siya mabibigyan ng hand job? I feel like an idiot e. Help please.
Hand On the Job Trainee
Hi sa’yo, Hand On the Job Trainee,
‘Wag kang ma-pressure if you say that your boyfriend is good in touching you. Wala naman talagang maling paraan to give a hand job basta hindi ito nakaka-cause ng discomfort or physical harm.
What may be pleasurable for one person may not be applicable to another kaya pwedeng hindi lang fan si boyfriend ng iyong technique. Magandang first step ang pag-usapan ninyo kung paano niya ba gusto and you can both adjust.
For your next hands-on experience, try mong maghanap ng comfortable position not only for you but also for him. Give him your full attention and then try to lubricate the penis.
Merong mga lubricants or lotion na puwede mong gamitin. Your saliva can also be used for a smoother hand job! Mas intimate pa nga kung hahalikan mo ang penis while you’re doing it! Samahan mo ng foreplay bago mo simulan. Magandang alam mo kung saan mo siya puwede halikan or hawakan that can increase his arousal. I am sure marami ka pang ma-didiscover na places that can help sa pleasure niya.
Keep on experimenting with your partner as you continue to be sexually active. Keep the communication lines open and magandang pinaguusapan ninyo kung alin ang pinaka-effective at kung ano ang inyong mga likes and dislikes.
Tanungin mo siya habang ginagawa mo kung nasasarapan ba siya. Pwede rin naming you take cues from his moans. The more open the two of you are, the more comfortable you become and the more pleasure will come your way.
Of course, huwag kalilimutang maging safe sa inyong mga ginagawa!
With love and lust,
Rica
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Biography: Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Marriage Counselor, and, Sex and Relationships Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psychologist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.
