Ms. Rica,
Me and my boyfriend just got into a long distance relationship dahil meron siyang one year assignment in Dubai. We were very sexually active and even if we have already planned to see each other every two months, of course it’s not the same as being together talaga.
For the past two years kasi, halos daily or twice a day kami kung magsex or I go down on him kapag may period ako. Pero basta regular. I know it will be very difficult for him. Pero sabi naman niya, it’s okay kasi he intends to masturbate regularly.
I am curious lang about men’s masturbation fantasies. What do they really think about when looking at porn?
Thank you,
Lightyears
Hi Lightyears,
Medyo challenging talaga ang transition from daily or twice a day sexual activity with the partner to going solo and long distance. Pero maganda ang naka-set ninyong plans to see each other every two months and before you know it, magkasama na kayo ulit.
I understand your concern and curiosity kasi your boyfriend will be relying more on masturbation and self-pleasure than you being there. As long as you feel comfortable with that, I believe that it’s okay.
However, it is quite difficult to say what men are exactly thinking about when looking at porn. Some imagine themselves as the guy, hence, there are some porn movies na point of view ng guy ang perspective or for some, they would rather prefer to be the audience where they get aroused by watching two people do it in front of them.
Overall, medyo wide ang range ng sexual fantasies ang both men and women. Merong iba who fantasize more than others, this includes activities that they may be able to do or those that they can only fulfil by fantasizing over them.
It is good to maintain constant communication with your partner to see other ways to get through the distance. I am sure you can look for creative ways to enjoy and pleasure each other.
With love and lust,
Rica
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Biography: Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Marriage Counselor, and Sex Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psychologist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.
