Withdrawal and spermicide

Hello Ma’am Rica,

Virgin po ako until six months ago with my current girlfriend. Parehas kaming virgin kaya nasa exploration stage kami. Pero dahil we want to avoid a gulatan situation na may mabubuntis, we are careful and are using condoms.

Although merong a few times na niririsk na lang namin and hinuhugot ko na lang be­fore I come. Meron ding heat of the moment na after I come outside, pinupunasan ko lang then I re-enter.

Meron din nagmention to us about spermicide ba yon? Any information will be help­ful po.

                                                                        Thank you,

                                                                        Egg Sandwich

Hello Egg Sandwich,

Congratulations on your sexual awakening with your girlfriend. And kudos to you na you are try­ing to be safe. Kung ang usapan ay pag avoid ng unwanted preg­nancy, ang withdrawal method at ang spermicide ay both considered as birth control methods. Pero kai­langan mong isipin ang rate of ef­fectiveness ng mga ito.

Withdrawal method can be as high as 96 percent effective pero ang average nito ay 78 percent lang. But this is measured consid­ering perfect timing and consis­tency. Ito yung pinaka convenient method dahil wala itong cost and walang side effects.

Pero kailangan mo rin iconsider ang iyong pre-ejaculatory fluid na usually does not have sperm pero may cases na since meron pang sperm sa urethra, sumasama ito sa pre-cum. Kaya ang pag re-en­ter kahit nagpunas ka na ay mas mataas ang risk for pregnancy.

Ibig sabihin, pwede ka pa rin makabuntis, kahit hinugot mo. Ang spermicides naman ang may pinakamababang rate of effectiveness – 82 percent lang with an average of 72 percent effectivity. Pero kailangan mong maging careful dito dahil may cases na nagkakaroon ng irritation or UTIs dahil sa paggamit ng spermicides.

Wala namang type of sexual contact ang 100 percent risk free kaya dapat i-weigh ang mga pros and cons ng bawat isa. Nandyan din ang birth control pills for your consideration.

At oo, mas maiging ituloy niyo nalang din ang paggamit ng con­doms dahil apart from pregnan­cy, kailangan nyo din iconsider ang issue ng Sexually Transmit­ted Infections or STIs. Hope that helps!

With love and lust,

Rica

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Biography: Rica Cruz is a Li­censed Psychologist, Marriage Counselor, and Sex Therapist. She comes out as the Resident Psychologist on Boys’ Night Out every Thursday night on Magic 89.9.