Dear Doc Rica,
Puwede niyo ba ako bigyan ng tips kung paano maghandjob? Para po ready ako kapag nagkita ulit kami ng boyfriend ko after ECQ.
Hand Me Down
Hello Hand Me Down,
Exciting naman ng gusto mo mangyari after ECQ. It’s good that you want to explore that. Wala naman talagang maling paraan to give a hand job basta hindi ito nakaka-cause ng discomfort or physical harm. What may be pleasurable for one person may not be applicable to another kaya puwedeng hindi lang fan si boyfriend ng iyong technique. Magandang first step ay ang pag-usapan ninyo kung paano njya ba gusto and you can both adjust.
For your next hands-on experience, try mong maghanap ng comfortable position not only for you but also for him. Give him your full attention and then try to lubricate the penis. Merong mga lubricants or lotion na puwede mong gamitin. Your saliva can also be used for a smoother hand job! Mas intimate pa nga kung hahalikan mo ang penis while you’re doing it!
Samahan mo ng foreplay bago mo simulan. Magandang alam mo kung saan mo siya puwede halikan or hawakan that can increase his arousal. I am sure marami ka pang madidiscover na places that can help sa pleasure niya.
Keep on experimenting with your partner as you continue to be sexually active. Keep the communication lines open and magandang pinag-uusapan ninyo kung alin ang pinakaeffective at kung ano ang inyong mga likes and dislikes. Tanungin mo siya habang ginagawa mo kung nasasarapan ba siya. Puwede rin namang you take cues from his moans. The more open the two of you are, the more comfortable you become and the more pleasure will come your way. Of course, huwag kalilimutang maging safe sa inyong mga ginagawa!
With love and lust,
Rica
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Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Sex and Relationships Therapist, Sex Educator. She opines that sexual empowerment for Filipinos is sexier than sex.
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