BY RICA CRUZ
Dear Doc Rica,
I have a girlfriend pero magkaiba kami ng sexual history. I am still a virgin while my girlfriend has more experience than me. We are planning to have sex soon pero parang natatakot ako. Kapag kasama namin mga friends nya, minsan nagbibiruan sila about how a vibrator is better in satisfying than a real penis lalo na kung maliit ito. Hindi ko tuloy alam kung paano ko sya masasatisfy. I want her to be pleased pero I am hoping na manggaling yon sakin instead of a machine. Patulong naman sana as my penis is just average size. Salamat.
Bunny Stand
Hi Bunny Stand,
Hindi ka nag-iisa dahil madaming mga lalaki ang iniisip ang satisfaction ng kanilang mga partner due to certain factors. Madaming nawawalan ng confidence dahil hindi ganoon kalaki ang kanilang “kargada.” Pero while some women may prefer bigger penises, marami ding nagsasabi na it is more about how good you are in using other parts of the body to give and receive pleasure. You have your tongue, fingers and others to help you please her.
Bago ka mag-alala about the comments of your girlfriend’s friends, isipin mo muna at kausapin ang iyong partner. Baka naman sya na mismo ang magsabi sa’yo that you are okay and hindi na nya kailangan ng vibrator or to worry yourself about sex. Kailangan mong magkaroon ng self-confidence and mas maging open sa iyong feelings. The emotional bond will enhance and help with your sexual issues.
Men are usually scared of sex toys thinking na hindi sila enough in satisfying their partners but in reality, you can use these toys to your advantage. You can learn to use vibrators to help you in satisfying your partner physically. It can actually enhance the experience you want your partner to have. You may be surprised at what you both can learn and feel on your sexual encounters. Be not afraid, enjoy and always be safe.
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Happy Valentine’s Day!!!
With Love and Lust,
Doc Rica
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Rica Cruz, PhD, RPsy is a Psychologist, Sex and Relationship Therapist and Sex Educator. She is a co-host of the program Feelings at OnePH Channel 1, and listen to her podcasts, Conservative Ako and The Sexy Minds. Follow her on Facebook.com/thesexymind or Instagram @_ricacruz.
