Hello Ms. Rica,
Matagal na kami ng girlfriend ko and we plan to get married next year. We live together, so currently dahil ECQ, we have more time to have sex. Almost everyday kami or minsan nga twice a day pa so I have no complaints. Pero I usually catch her masturbating pa rin in secret. Hindi ko na lang ito bini-bring up sa kanya. Pero I am kinda worried kung hindi ba siya satisfied sa akin hence the need to still masturbate kahit ang dalas na naming mag-sex currently?
Thank you,
Blue Bottle
Hello Blue Bottle,
Thank you for reaching out regarding this medyo sensitive and personal topic. My initial advice to you will be to talk to her more about your sex life and not necessarily confronting her. Unique ang masturbation habits ng iba’t ibang tao. May mga nagmamasturbate more when they are single while there are others who masturbate more with a partner.
While this can be a sign of dissatisfaction, it may be possible that it has nothing to do with you. Masturbation has a variety of benefits na puwedeng mag-fall sa category ng self-care or to secure that space for herself.
With this ECQ, maraming mga tao na “stuck” together and are struggling find and enjoy their own space. This also helps in getting to know more about yourself and what feels good for you. I think you can talk more about how to improve on your sex life or if there are things both of you want to try out. May time kayo ngayon.
I think ang pinaka-importante now is to talk about the well-being of each other in this situation and how your relationship plays a big role in trying to cope with it. Talk, try, experiment, enjoy but always be safe.
With love and lust,
Rica
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Rica Cruz is a Licensed Psychologist, Sex and Relationships Therapist, Sex Educator. She opines that sexual empowerment for Filipinos is sexier than sex.
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