Dear Manay Gina,
My sister is set to marry this year to her boyfriend of five years. The problem is that he cheated on her two years ago. Although things have changed for the better since the incident, my sister claims that there is always going to be a trust issue because of what happened.
I don’t want my sister to be in a relationship where she still has doubts. I love her very much, and I don’t want a part of her to be unhappy for the rest of her life. I told her that if she feels this way, maybe they should postpone the wedding to think it through and sort it out before she gets married. The problems are, the invitations have already been sent and the venue is already booked. What advice can you give regarding her situation?
Typically, when people get caught cheating, more often than not they immediately make a promise not to do it again.
Cheating, however, is not the easiest behavior to control. Promises alone also do not prevent future acts of cheating. The best way to deal with infidelity is through some form of counseling.
Ask your sister to thoroughly review the pros and cons of getting married to a man she distrust. And remind her that no person should ever make her compromise her own happiness.
That the reception is already booked is a feeble rationale for not postponing a wedding. Calling the wedding off is as easy as spreading the word or sending a printed card saying the nuptials have been postponed/cancelled.
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– Arthur Conan Doyle
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