Dear Manay Gina,
Initially, I thought that I should marry my boyfriend because he’s intelligent, ambitious and kind. But there are things about him that make me think we’re not meant to be. I love him, but I have doubts if our relationship is the one I’ve always dreamed of. I guess what I need to know is, is there even such a thing as a perfect romance? I know I will always be loved by him, but is that enough? Would I be settling if I agree to marry him? Do you think I should talk to him about it?
Talk to him and say what? Unless you have a concrete idea of what he could do to help your fantasy along, like flowers every Friday or poems on your pillow, I would not suggest you share with him your desire for a fairy-tale romance. However, the qualities of his that you mention – intelligence, ambition, kindness would certainly sound like Prince Charming to a lot of women.
As to your question – is there such a thing as a perfect romance? – I would say, yes. But they are transient states.
Fairy tales are to romance what fireworks are to the night sky. And while temporarily thrilling, not one lasts. It is in the sharing and giving of love that we receive the same that we give. Each of us desires to understand and realize this experience. Love is such a powerful force especially when shared.
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“When we are in love we often doubt that which we most believe.” – Francois de La Rochefoucauld
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