Dear Manay Gina,
I’m in my late 50s. In college, I had two great friends, actually four, but the other two died already. About a year or so, I started feeling envious and left out. My two friends were more successful and it got to the point where they were doing a lot of fun things together and my husband and I were never included. I tried a few times to contact them but our conversations always lacked the warmth and caring we once had.
I have a close family, a set of good friends, and a good job but not a day goes by that I’m not bothered by this situation. I miss having these two dear friends in my life and it hurts deeply knowing that they could not care less if I’m sick, dead, or whatever.
Many believe that the friends they have in their lives now will be there forever. That’s usually not the case. People grow and mature (or don’t) and many friendships cannot weather the change. That’s especially true of friendships forged when we were young.
Maybe your friendship with these women is over. That is not necessarily a bad thing. You have a good life and spent some months without them. Clearly, not having them as friends is not the end of the world. Appreciate the friends who are in your life now. They don’t have to be around forever in order for you to enjoy the time you have with them today.
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“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” – Maya Angelou
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