For about 3 years now, me and my girlfriend have been living together. We are sexually active but sabi nya, hindi daw sya masyadong okay sa doggie style position at medyo masakit daw. I am starting to look for a little bit variety sa mga posisyunan pero okay na daw siya sa usual missionary position. Parang kontra daw kasi sa curve ng penis ko yung posisyon na yon. Meron bang way to ease into it or eventually mapapayag ko sya na gawin yung posisyon na yon? Thank you
Hi to you, Purple Planner!
It is good that you are communicating with your girlfriend about this and that you are not forcing what you want on her. I understand that sometimes, having sex in the same position over and over can become boring in the long run. Pero mahalaga yung part na dapat pareho kayong satisfied, comfortable at nageenjoy in having sex.
Kung naghahanap ka ng other positions or ways para hindi maging boring, pwede kang magsuggest or magtry ng iba pang position or other activities that can be pleasurable to both of you. Talk to your partner on how any position can be more comfortable for her. It may be in forms of lubricants or the pace that you take during sex. Pero meron pa ring chance that your partner can still feel pain during sex kapag in this position.
Meron ding possibility na may bumabagabag pa sa iyong partner sa doggie position because some people may feel na in this position, yung sex itself ay ginagawa sa kanila at hindi sila basta participant or parang distant ang kanilang partner dahil hindi sila magkaharap. As her if this is something that bothers her. Pwede mo din isuggest na you can switch to the doggie when she is fully stimulated para may enough natural lubrication to make it less painful.
At the end of the day, we need to be respectful of boundaries of our partners when it comes to sex. Wag tayong magforce ng anything na hindi sila komportable o maaaring makasakit sa kanila. Maraming paraan to enjoy but always be careful and be safe.
With Love and Lust,
Rica Cruz, PhD, RPsy is a Psychologist, Sex and Relationship Therapist. She is a co-host of the program Feelings at OnePH Channel 1, and have her podcasts, Conservative Ako and The Sexy Minds on Spotify. Follow her on facebook.com/thesexymind or Instagram and Twitter @_ricacruz.